What would you do if you were in our shoes?
This is my first time posting on here. Our story is different. On 1/6/10 we adopted a beautiful baby girl. She has had lots of medical problems in the past but is doing really good now. We have an open adoption but we don't see the birthmother a lot. She really only keeps in contact with us because she wants to talk to me. She has forgotten how old our daughter is and even her name(which is hard on me because she named her). She is a troubled young lady. She left home right after my daughter was born because her father hurt her and the cops had to get involved. July of 10/10 she joined a traveling carnival. She got pregnant again 11/10 by some guy, but ended up losing the baby. Then called me back on 3/11 to tell me that she was pregnant again. She was so in love and had so many hopes for this baby. Then in 9/11 she got into a fight and went into premature labor. Her daughter had to stay in the hospital for months fighting for her life. She finally got out and they went back to his families house. She called me crying one day telling me that he was getting kicked out of the house and that they weren't letting her take her daughter. I told her to call the police and i guess when the police got there she said that if she has to leave without her baby she will kill herself. So the police took her to a mental hospital. In the mental hospital she found out that she was pregnant again. She called me everyday while she was there. The social worker called me to see what i knew about her. I told her what i knew and she told me that there was no way that they were ever going to allow her to have her kid because she was so mentally unstable. (the father is just as bad, the baby girl is on a breathing machine and a heart monitor and he smokes pot and cigarettes in front of her and plus he would hurt the birthmother all the time) On 12/23/11 she called to see if my husband and i wanted to adopt the baby she was so caring. We said yes because we knew that we wanted more kids and to have it be a half sibling of our daughters would be even better. So here is where it starts getting stressful. since the day we found out that she wanted us to adopt this baby, she has called me every single day (2 or 3 times a day) I have had to talk her out of hurting herself so many times. She has lived on the streets for most of last month and wouldn't let us help her. She has had 5 boyfriends in the last 4 weeks. She falls in love the minute A guy says hi to her. A few weeks ago she called me at midnight to tell us that she has decided to let us sign the birth certificate because we are the real parents not her (which isn't illegal but she refused to believe me). Last week she called the social worker to tell her that she was coming to take her baby back and the social worker said well you have the right to do that but we just filed papers against you, so that the birthfather could get full custody. The birthmother went off on this lady. It was bad i guess. Well last Thursday she called me and telling me that she can't wait for this baby to be born so our daughter can have a sibling. So i told her that we were sending the money off to start the process then. She said good, but i wish that i could just give this baby to you, so you could save your money. So we sent off the $3700.00(non refundable) Monday. Saturday she called and tell me that she decided that she wants to keep the baby because she wants a little girl (she thinks that its another girl) to dress up and do her hair. (good reason to be a mom right) Today she called me to see if we were still coming up there at the end of this month to see what the baby will be, because we will always be the babies parents even though she isn't with us. I WAS LIKE WHAT!!!! Then she called a little later to tell me that she is going away with the carnival again and that she is going to raise the baby on the road, then two minutes later it was she is moving in with a guy that she met online . She just has to clean and make him supper and her and the baby can live there for free. Then it turned into her boyfriend of three years (but they had never met until last week) was going to buy a house for her and the baby so that they could be a family. She is so mixed up and changes her mind every minute. She has no clue what it is to be a parent. She isn't worried about where she is going to get food and clothes for the baby the state will take care of that for her. Everyone keeps telling us that we need to just sit back and wait, she will call us again and ask us to take the baby. I don't know if I can talk to her every day knowing how messed up she is. What would you do if you were in our shoes?
condoleezza rice frank mccourt ricin in god we trust damian mcginty tj houshmandzadeh tj houshmandzadeh
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